Week 10 Recap

I completed week ten with the omission of yesterday’s post. No matter how much I read over it, reworded it, completely changed it, I just couldn’t get it to the point where it clearly conveyed what I wanted to say. Therefore, it was scrapped. It did, however, prompt me to address the issue of “Quantity or Quality?”, which will be posted next week.

Last week was much needed as far as blogging was concerned. I had not had a relaxed week of fun rambling, since week six. As far as Perspective Park the blog goes, I never want to become so involved in social issues that I neglect the imaginative and strictly fun sides of writing. Writing for me was a hobby first; through storytelling and creating. This week, I got back around to it even though the last blog was not posted.

I did the previous recap a day late, on Monday the 17th. On Wednesday, the 19th, I discussed the importance of keeping friendships strong with those that we do not see as often as our day-to-day friends. For most people that have those relationships though, you may not need that type of attention because that’s the chemistry of it, but check on it to make sure. True friends are not always easy to come by and it would be silly to lose ones that you already have because of lack of communication. I can’t tell you how to treat your friends, but I know you don’t want to lose any.

On Thursday, November 20th, I did a “Thirty Seconds Ago…” post recalling that weird moment when my dad discovered something about me that he hadn’t noticed previously. It’s a good read and I would hate to give away the punchline. So if you are interested, check it out — “Thirty Seconds Ago… Transitional Awkwardness”. I don’t mind laughing at myself and accepting my flaws. I find that it plays a part in keeping one with a sense of humility, and it’s funny! Side note: If it is not rude, crude, or nude and in good spirits — I WILL LAUGH AT YOU! Laughter is a part of life that I will continue to enjoy… thoroughly. I will not be stripped of it, even at my own expense.

Unfortunately, the occurrences taking place in Ferguson, Missouri are no laughing matter. Depending on the outcome of the case in the shooting death of Michael Brown by a white police officer, Ferguson could see many dark days ahead. That goes either way too, whether the decision is guilty or not guilty. Whatever the outcome is, will cause waves across the nation. It would be nice if we could keep the city, both families, and the residents of Missouri in our thoughts and prayers as the time of decision draws near.

No matter what happens next week, try to keep a positive perspective and show compassion wherever you can. Another thing too, is that it may not always be easy to stay encouraged drawing strength from within yourself. Make sure you have a friend or two that will encourage you and support you with the love of Christ. You may be surprised at how much easier it makes your day.

Ninja Friends

I think we all have those one or two (maybe three) people, that no matter what, you know they will always be there for you… Even though you only talk every blue moon. These are not your normal friends. You don’t see them every day; every week; or every month. I don’t even think “friend” is a proper term for them. The relationship is weird. It’s a strong bond though that’s held together by… practically nothing.

In my case though, I have two friends from high school — a guy and a girl — that I hardly ever talk to and rarely see. The girl, I haven’t seen for maybe four or five years now! She moved out of the state and out of respect of our dating relationships, our talk time had become nearly nonexistent. She has since gotten engaged and had a child (BUT she and her fiancé thought I would be an excellent Godfather; Yay me!). The guy friend, I may see once or twice a year, but when we get together it’s like we never spent any time apart. He is now married with two kids. I’ve seen him a few times since he’s been married, but not his kids. That’s how bad it is, and I really don’t understand it. Through all the space and time between both these friends we remain separated, but inseparable.

I texted a friend for some help today, and the response I got was, “Well my phone says this is Reggie but nahhhh. Reggie doesn’t text me.” So I’ve accepted the fact that maybe I’m a bad, but loyal friend. I’ve heard other people say they have friendships like this, but now I’m considering that maybe me and those people have problems in nurturing friendships.

I first thought about this one night about a month ago when my brother came over. Now my brother and I are pretty close — the kind of close that can be exhausting — like Shawn and Marlon. However, over the last two (nearly three) years, we have not spent any time together where it was only us two. So that particular night we talked from 10pm until 6am the next morning… and we realized we are no longer as similar as we once were. Since that’s my brother though, we still understand each other and know why our views are the way they are, even though they may differ now.

Shawn and Marlon Wayans in "White Chicks"
Shawn and Marlon Wayans in “White Chicks”

Now let’s consider these two friends that I have. If we really sat down to catch up, what would happen? Not at a birthday dinner, or a wedding, or some group reunion… Just one-on-one and eyeball to eyeball; what would happen?

Answer…

We would leave thinking about how awkward it was. If my own brother and I are having to relearn each other after a short three years of not living together, how much have my friends and I differed since we’ve been apart? We don’t know each other anymore. Our lives have taken different routes, and experiences have taught us different lessons. Yes, it’s a part of life and growing, but there has been no constant communications between us to make us aware of each other’s changes. It’s like seeing your friends in the sixth grade after fifth grade summer break: “Dang you got tall!” It would be to drastic and the thought of it has actually made me paranoid about getting to know my friends as full grown adults.

I believe we all have cases like this. Yours may not be as extreme as mine, but you can relate. Partake in my perspective, will you? I say all of that to say, that relationships of all kinds, have to be strengthened. It’s easy for us to focus on strengthening that bond in a dating relationship because your are fighting to keep that person. We have to do the same for siblings, childhood friends, good friends we made on the job, or wherever. If we don’t that bond that you think is there, just may not be.

The reason that this is important to me, is because I truly believe that the types of relationships you build in life will play a dominant role in determining your measure of happiness in the end. People are your greatest investment. Try not to burn any bridges and stay in good standings with everyone. Now if it can’t be done, then it can’t be done. But a lot of times we give up on people, and possibly good friends, over something as little as lack of communication.

I hear people talk about how they don’t need friends. Well you may not need friends, but everyone needs love… and you can find a lot of love in friends. So if you got throwback friends, or ninja friends (can’t see ‘em, but you know they’re there), call and tell them you appreciate them. Hang out if you can. Keep in contact and keep the relationship what it should be. I mean, I have friends in my favorites list that I don’t even remember what they look like. I’m a bad case, so don’t be like me. Call your friends now… before you realize the number you have saved for them is their pager number.